tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1325772553931953633.post3439944615954388322..comments2023-09-04T02:29:36.169-07:00Comments on Until it kills me...: Post Sixty-Two: What's in A Hug?Sarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00575497683093382928noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1325772553931953633.post-50650515887651526532011-11-23T13:02:11.808-08:002011-11-23T13:02:11.808-08:00when i was growing up my dad put his wife before m...when i was growing up my dad put his wife before me and still does, now my kid is growing up and her dad has done the same; some people's kids die and it devastates them. Other people put thier sex lives before their kids and up and leave them on the other side of the world.....some people dont deserve to be called "mum" they dont know the meaning of the word....still its their loss...but who gains? nobody in the long run.....apart from the nurse at the STD clinic........:)Doctor Chinneryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15716912759223582749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1325772553931953633.post-71287050001833063932011-11-03T04:44:49.988-07:002011-11-03T04:44:49.988-07:00I always heard of the saying, when i was growing u...I always heard of the saying, when i was growing up,'arrrrrrrrr trace give me a bear hug'?????? so when i saved up enough pocket money i brought myself a little bear which when visiting those enoyyyying Aunties n Uncles who wanted a bear hug i would say hold on and pull out my little bear and then i would say'here is yr bear hug Auntie' they usually walk off very confused and dazed!!!!! well what can i say.Tracey Jarroldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11123059815425750871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1325772553931953633.post-5011883059438178862010-09-15T04:28:47.818-07:002010-09-15T04:28:47.818-07:00dude! i know where you're coming from! i come ...dude! i know where you're coming from! i come from a very very not affectionate family and as a result was never cool with hugging friends, let alone mere acquaintances... one day i may master the casual hug...<br /><br />also there's a few people in my life that i've never hugged for some reason but now i know them better but feel it would be random and awkward if i suddenly hugged them now, it's too late! and so now i just hug everyone else and try to subtly be busy when their time comes which probably just makes it worse, aargh! you are not alone dear friend :o)meagshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12204497125817442717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1325772553931953633.post-79969147664984501832010-09-08T04:59:38.550-07:002010-09-08T04:59:38.550-07:00Brutal...too soon?Brutal...too soon?Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00575497683093382928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1325772553931953633.post-65065115268129478172010-09-07T01:36:07.350-07:002010-09-07T01:36:07.350-07:00hang on what? but daddy said hugging was...huh. Ex...hang on what? but daddy said hugging was...huh. Explains a lot really.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13993123756900525208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1325772553931953633.post-29913828487741051732010-09-06T17:29:32.763-07:002010-09-06T17:29:32.763-07:00You're probably doing okay. The old ladies mi...You're probably doing okay. The old ladies might feel weird if you high-fived them.Erin Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08872088534190948163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1325772553931953633.post-78221643738468786162010-09-06T16:13:30.175-07:002010-09-06T16:13:30.175-07:00OMG! I'm exactly the same!!! You spend the who...OMG! I'm exactly the same!!! You spend the whole hug thinking about how uncomfortable the hug is and if you are hugging too tight, or for too long and whether they are finished hugging yet? Same when people introduce themselves, I spend the whole time trying to give them a good impression and wondering what they are thinking and totally even forget what they said their name was ;) In hindsight this sounds totally neuroticSusanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10487435606475613813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1325772553931953633.post-40912422434507372012010-09-06T15:46:35.175-07:002010-09-06T15:46:35.175-07:00And another thing....
If there's a height issu...And another thing....<br />If there's a height issue to deal with there's another level of complexity to factor in.<br /><br />If you are the shorty then you will probably end up bear hugging the taller receipient while he/she gets an armful of shoulders. Convention suggests that the taller person stoop to meet the shorter in that really uncomfortable fashion.<br /><br />Thinking about the rotation a little more I think it happens almost as automatically as when you pass someone in the street, you reach a quick mutual understanding of intentions that avoid bumping into someone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1325772553931953633.post-20995779146534659692010-09-06T13:06:47.992-07:002010-09-06T13:06:47.992-07:00OK - casual hugging goes like this. In front of a ...OK - casual hugging goes like this. In front of a mirror try this out in the safety of you own home (best not to involve a dead person though).<br /><br />Stand facing your reflection (you have no choice) and stick your arms out either side horizontally. To hug your reflection simply lean / rotate your head and both arms by 5 or 10 degrees clockwise (or anti). Your heads should then go in side by side and arms not clash. If you are the hugger you usually do the rotation, if you are the huggee then the other person will rotate.<br />If you are unsure whether you will get the hug back simply make the hug gesture (arms out etc), rotate, rotate slightly and ask them to get in close and hug it out. You will probably end up pointing your arms out and towards them as a gesture of welcome more than straight out. (thats just a practice thing)<br /><br />Test it on your friends and report back.<br />EddieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com